The Dance Guide Way

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During the event, you will hold the space by supporting the guidelines, and answering questions and kindly addressing concerns of participants. Most importantly you will be guiding participants with compassion and care to support the healthy expression, and shared experiences.

Here are some fundamental descriptions of those responsibilities. They are always open for redefining and tuning, so if you have an idea/s to make them better please share it/them in the form at the bottom.

  • When supporting the guidelines
    • Please guide any conversations, photography, any phone use, and open food and water containers off and away from the dance floor, and to appropriate spaces.
  • Finding out of someone being offended by the actions of another.
    • Have any vulnerable conversations in private and with a kind heart.
    • Listen to the complaint and understand what happened.
    • Reply with “I’m hearing you say…
    • Then Ask, am I getting that right? Am I understanding correctly? Am I missing anything?
    • If you can, empathize to offer comfort.
      • “I can certainly understand how that would feel. I appreciate and love how deeply you’re experiencing.”
    • Offering Support
      • Ask what is needed. “Is there anything you need to express to feel resolved? How can I be supportive.”
      • Offer to teach the guidelines, if that is needed.
    • Needing to speak to someone causing an offense
      • Share how the actions of one were received by another.
        • Ask if you can have a conversation
        • Have any vulnerable conversations in private and with a kind heart.
        • You can say “I need to tell you something, and i don’t want it to upset you. Instead I want it to bring you into a deeper connection with the Ecstatic Dance. Can i share it with you?” “I want to share something with you that will make the dance better. Can i share it with you?”
        • Share how their action was/is being received, do not blame.
          • You can express that some have sensitivity to the volume of their actions.
        • Offer support by advising corrective action that will resolve the issue and future issues.
          • Offer to teach the guidelines around sharing and interaction, and how to use them.
          • The intention is to support a space where all experiences can be shared by wanting participants.
  • If some is loud, or ongoing loud vocalization is disturbing to anyone, that person can be asked to vocalize quieter, or stop if they can not.
    • You can say “Can you lower the volume of your vocalizing others who are more sensitive to that?
    • You can redirect by asking “Can you settle that into yourself in a nonverbal way? What would that look like in a nonverbal way?”

Thank you for stepping into holding the space of our dance container.

Please let me know what you think of all this, and feel free to add suggestions for additions or amendments below.