The Dance Guide Way


During the event, you will hold the container by supporting the guidelines, answering questions, and kindly addressing concerns of participants.

Here are some fundamental descriptions of those responsibilities. They are always open for redefining and tuning, so if you have an idea/s to make them better please share it/them in the form at the bottom.

  • When supporting the guidelines
    • Please guide any conversations, photography, phone use, and open food and water containers off and away from the dance floor to an appropriate spaces.
  • Finding out of someone being offended by the actions of another.
    • Have any vulnerable conversations in private and with a kind heart.
    • Listen to the complaint and understand what happened.
    • Reply with “I’m hearing you say…
    • Then Ask, am I getting that right? Am I understanding correctly? Am I missing anything?
    • If you can, empathize to offer comfort.
      • “I can certainly understand how that would feel. I appreciate and love how deeply you’re experiencing.”
    • Offering Support
      • Ask what is needed. “Is there anything you need to express to feel resolved? How can I be supportive.”
    • Needing to speak to someone causing an offense
      • Share how the actions of one were received by another.
        • Ask if you can have a conversation
        • Have any vulnerable conversations in private and with a kind heart.
        • You can say “I need to tell you something, and i don’t want it to upset you. Instead I want it to bring you into a deeper connection with the Ecstatic Dance. Can i share it with you?” or simply “Can we talk? I want to share with you how your actions are being received, so we can help create the best Ecstatic Dance experience. Are you ok with that?”
        • Share how their action was/is being received, do not blame.
          • You can express that some have sensitivity to the volume of their actions.
        • Offer support by advising corrective action that will resolve the issue and future issues.
          • Offer to teach the guidelines around sharing and interaction, and how to use them.
          • The intention is to support a space where all experiences can be shared by wanting participants.

Thank you for stepping in to hold our dance container.

Please let me know what you think of all this, and feel free to add suggestions for additions or amendments below.